Official Website of SubstanceForYou.Com
Cart 0

Dear Santa: Merry Sober Christmas!

addiction Alcohol binge children Christmas Confessions dear family friends hangover holidays kids liquor santa sober

Dear Santa,

Last year was my first clean and sober holiday season in years.  It was the first holiday season I would confront, still pretty fresh outta rehab.  It was also the first holiday season I would spend with my children and family after being away for so long.  To the outsider looking in, it would appear I would have had so much to be excited about, but in reality, I was nowhere near excited.  I was overwhelmed with anxiety and an addict’s worst nightmare:  boredom.  In the year’s prior, I had something to take the edge off, relax my anxious condition.  This time, I would have nothing.  No drugs or alcohol.  I was approaching six months clean and still floundering in my new life quite a bit.  Shopping, planning, and showing up for things on someone else’s time line was still a challenge for me.

Courtesy of pinterest.com

All I had was my job and part-time visitation with my children combined with too many days off of work for Christmas vacation.  I was isolated and bored. I was despondent and afraid.  I was excited and felt engulfed in guilt at the same time.  Guilt was overshadowing everything because the year before, Christmas of 2013, I spent Christmas alone in a motel room crashing from a drug-induced binge. To date, I cannot recall what I did for the New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day that followed.  I did not see or speak to my children, parents, sister, or nieces that year.  I was so caught up in my own selfish feelings of not being able to see my boys, I denied my own parents of seeing their child.  There were not gifts, cards, or decorations.  I was in a seedy motel with people I could hardly call friends, much less family.  I felt guilty for the years I was there in body but not in spirit.  I felt guilt for the memories of holidays that were saturated with drinking and drugs.  Guilt was eating me alive, like a cancer, until I realized I can’t go back and undo any of those things.  I can only prevent them from happening again.  So, I pushed the guilt aside and went on with the rest of my holiday enjoying every moment possible with my family.

Even though I had nearly six months of recovery under my belt, I was still not feeling totally free from the chains of my past. I was still getting used to the idea of being sober – forever.  I will admit, I even missed my old life at times.  I felt boring, like I’d lost my edge.  I lost my bad-girl image.  This was hard to accept.  Looking back on it now, I was just missing the idea of my using days and the lack of responsibilities.  Nevertheless, I was committed to recovery, so I did what a lot of people do in the beginning:  white-knuckled it.  I was determined to stay clean and sober, no matter what!

Courtesy of pinterest.com

And just as Christmas brought the guilt, New Year’s brought the boredom.  Sure, I had had some sober New Year’s Eves.  I have children.  I’ve been pregnant on holidays, but for some reason, I could not remember what those were like.  Last holiday season, I felt like I was literally taking the days one minute at a time, sometimes by the seconds, while I was continuously convincing myself I was missing out on nothing.  I have these little conversations with myself, inside my mind.  I reminded myself I can do this, I can stay sober, picking up and using is not worth it.  One glass of wine or champagne is not enough for me, and it won’t end there.  I reached out to my sober friends on social media.  They showed me I was not alone; I was not the only sober person in the world on New Year’s.

During this particularly vulnerable time, I was also very cautious to identify and avoid my triggers.  I was fully prepared to sit at home alone and go to bed at 10pm, if that was what was necessary.  Clubs and dinner parties where I knew alcohol would be present was not on my agenda. (In the event this situation ever becomes unavoidable, I’m sure to have a clear “escape” plan.)  I surrounded myself with people that supported my recovery and spent as much time near my children as possible.  

I’m very fortunate my family does not include alcohol in their holiday celebrations.  I recently had a friend encounter this challenge with his own family.  When asked if he would be coming over for Christmas Eve, he politely asked his family if they would mind keeping the alcohol put away for an hour or two.  

If the presence of alcohol makes you feel uncomfortable, have an escape plan or a list of trusted friends you can call, if necessary.  Keeping your recovery in tact is your number one priority.  As far as avoiding drugs, just stay out of those slippery situations.  There is no reason to revisit the former establishments (or trap houses) of days gone by.  

Santa Dear Santa: Merry Sober Christmas! 261746643cda9e546488c1f5381e4aa6

This year, I plan to volunteer at a local charity or soup kitchen with my “free” time off of work and out of school.  I plan to go to the gym and continue my regular running routine.  I also have plans to run a Hair of the Dog marathon on New Year’s Day.  I cannot fathom showing up to run a marathon at 7:30am after being out all night or hungover.  I have a list of books I want to read and few movies I’d like to see with all this extra time on my hands.  I also have a friend new in recovery I’d like to go to a meeting or two with to show my support.

For me, time really was a healer of a lot of things.  I’m still a baby in recovery, but the longer I have been sober, the less I think about what to do on holidays and birthdays without drinking, clubs, and drugs.  I don’t even consider these things anymore.  In fact, I imagine having to deal with two high-energy children the next day while having a hangover, crashing from a binge, or fiending for more dope.  None of those things sound like fun to me.  At all.  When I try to picture doing regular, everyday activities while under the influence of a substance, it doesn’t seem logical or possible to me anymore.  Last year, I was thinking, “Who sits at home with little kids on New Year’s Eve?”  This year, I’m thinking, “This girl does!”

With love Santa,

My name is Candace and I’ve been good this year Santa! I am a recovered addict since 6-17-14 and all I want for Christmas this year is to keep my sobriety alive!

santa Santa Dear Santa: Merry Sober Christmas! Logosanta santa about drug addiction about drugs addiction about heroin addiction abuse drug rehab addicted addicted addicted drug addicted to drug addiction addiction addiction and MENTAL ILLNESS addiction book addiction SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA SANTA drug addiction drug treatment addiction free addiction help addiction heroin addiction in addiction of drug addiction addiction blog addiction center addiction help addiction support groups addiction to addiction addiction to drug addiction to drugs addiction to heroin addiction to MENTAL ILLNESS addiction treatment addiction treatment center addiction treatment centers addiction treatment program addiction treatment programs addiction treatments addictions and MENTAL ILLNESS addictions book addictions help addictions abuse treatment addiction help addiction treatment treatment center an addiction is an addiction co addiction cocaine addiction help cocaine addiction treatment cost of heroin detox from herion detox heroin detoxing from heroin drug abuse drug abuse help drug abuse treatment drug addicted son drug addiction drug addiction and drug addiction blog drug addiction book drug addiction help drug addiction help free drug addiction is drug addiction reasons drug addiction MENTAL ILLNESS drug addiction rehab drug addiction treatment drug addictions drug and addiction drug and treatment drug and drug addiction drug detox drug of addiction drug MENTAL ILLNESS drug rehab drug rehab centers drug treatment centers free addiction free addiction free drug addiction help help addiction help drug addiction help for addiction help for addictions help for addicts help for cocaine addiction help for drug addiction help for drug addicts help with addiction help with drug addiction herion addiction herion addiction treatment herion detox herion rehab herion treatment heroin abuse heroin abuse treatment heroin addict heroin addiction heroin addiction and heroin addiction blog heroin addiction cure heroin addiction drug heroin addiction facts heroin addiction MENTAL ILLNESS heroin addiction signs heroin addiction stories heroin addiction symptoms heroin addiction treatment heroin addiction treatment centers heroin addiction treatments heroin addiction true stories heroin addictions heroin addicts heroin clinic heroin clinics heroin detox heroin detox at home heroin detoxification heroin drug abuse heroin drugs heroin facts heroin history heroin overdose treatment heroin rehabilitation heroin rehabilitation centers heroin support groups heroin treatment heroin treatment center heroin treatment centers heroin treatment options heroin treatment programs heroin treatments heroin withdrawal heroin withdrawal symptoms heroin withdrawal treatment heroine addiction heroine detox heroine treatment heroine withdrawal treatment how to help addiction how to help drug addiction how to help with drug addiction how to treat heroin addiction just tee lsd treatment marijuana addiction help marijuana addiction treatment opiate addiction opiate addiction treatment opioid addiction treatment overcoming heroin addiction reasons for addiction
MENTAL ILLNESS addiction and addiction MENTAL ILLNESS drug addiction MENTAL ILLNESS for drug addiction MENTAL ILLNESS from addiction MENTAL ILLNESS from addictions MENTAL ILLNESS from drug addiction MENTAL ILLNESS from heroin addiction MENTAL ILLNESS in addiction signs of heroin addiction sober january 2015 substance abuse substance abuse help substance abuse treatment the drug addiction treating heroin addiction treatment for addiction treatment for drug abuse treatment for drug addiction treatment for herion treatment for heroin treatment for heroin addiction treatment for heroin addicts treatment for substance abuse treatment heroin treatment heroin addiction treatment of heroin MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS treatment of heroin addiction treatment options for heroin treatments for heroin treatments for heroin addiction ways to combat drug abuse what drug addiction what is a drug addiction MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS what is addiction MENTAL ILLNESS what is drug addiction what is heroin addiction what is MENTAL ILLNESS from addiction what is the drug addiction what to do with a drug addicted son why drug addiction


Older Post Newer Post


Leave a comment

Please note, comments must be approved before they are published